You have to spice up your look if you want to hit on the ladies on the side. Take it too far, however, and your wife is going to catch on. You can’t be buying a whole new closet because you want to get back in the game. So what do you do? These are some touches that will breathe life back into your wardrobe and your sex life that will totally fly under your wife’s radar.

Personal Grooming

Tell you wife that you want to get ahead at work by getting a more fashionable haircut. You don’t have to drop a lot of cash, but you shouldn’t head to the nearest corner barbershop either. Go to a nicer place and get a good hair cut that suits your face. If your wife isn’t dying to tell you how to cut your hair, the stylist there will help you.

Also, make sure you’re using a whitening toothpaste. If you can, pick up a box of whitening strips and use them at the office. A bright, fresh smile is the kind of thing that a woman you’re hitting on will notice. Your wife, on the other hand, won’t be looking for it. She won’t even notice.

Do the once over for all your minor personal effects. If you’ve been letting things slide thanks to your marriage, now’s the time to shake off the dust. Make sure your shampoo’s getting rid of your dandruff, keep that beard trimmed up, and make sure your cologne’s fresh and new. Old Spice makes you smell like your dad.

Rotate Your Wardrobe

The rule is one in, one out. Donate your old, ill fitting, or less stylish clothes to charity. You can then replace them with more stylish pieces without raising suspicion from your wife. After all, you need to maintain a certain amount of clothes. The same applies to shoes, belts, and jackets. Out with the old (piece by piece) and in with the new (gradually so she doesn’t suspect.)

Invest in Small Pieces

A great watch or good leather belt will spruce up any outfit. You can pull off anything with the right pair of shoes. If you’re going to be investing your money in wardrobe touch ups, think accessories first. You can take that belt off and pair it with every pair of slacks you own. If your wife is suspicious of you buying nicer shirts and slacks, then change it to nice belts and items that she doesn’t even think about. A great watch looks more like an indulgent man-toy than a pick up aid when seen by your wife, but to ladies looking to score it’s a sign that you take care of yourself.

The key to any shift is to do it gradually. If you replace every shirt in your closet tomorrow, your wife is going to notice. If you replace one every two weeks for six months, she’s not going to think anything of it. Be gradual and think of good reasons to justify your actions every step of the way. She won’t even notice that you’ve amped up your attractiveness.