When you’re with a hot new woman the chances are that you want to start having sex as soon as you can get it. That will satisfy those base urges, but what will it do for Future You? More than likely it’s probably going to leave you high and dry. That’s why you should take the slow road to keep her interest going over time.
Why You Should Do It
There are more reasons than you’d think for why you should slow down with her. The main one is that you’re going to end up better off in the future if you do. It sounds wrong, but think about it: the faster you move with her the brighter the fireworks are going to be. While that’s fun at the time, once it’s over all you’ve got is smoke in the air. The smoldering slow burn can still be passionate and sexy, but will keep you warm late into the night.
For the time being you aren’t just out of luck. Taking the time to get to know her will give you a high advantage when it comes to romancing her. Figuring out her little quirks and what she loves to get can only be a good thing. Giving her what she wants will make her happy, obviously. When a woman is happy she remembers that for a long, long time and will pay you back down the road.
She’ll be ridiculously impressed that you’re waiting for her to make the move. Nowadays men tend to expect a woman to put out after going on a few dates (three date rule, anyone?). When did virtue become a lost art? Not to sound like a pansy, but women have the freaking garden of Eden under those skinny jeans. You can’t just expect her to give it out like candy. When you finally get a taste of paradise it’s going to be well worth the wait. She’ll probably be more willing to do the weird stuff too.
How to Keep It in Your Pants
The hardest part of all of this, of course, is that you’re not going to be getting trim anytime soon. Get really friendly with a bottle of lotion and your tissue box. Of course you can still watch porn and get off in all of the classic ways. The best carrot on a stick is to keep your goal in mind. You really like this woman and you want to have sex with her for a long time, not just a short burst. If you need to, write it down on your bathroom mirror computer. Just make sure that she doesn’t see it or she might reconsider how sweet you’re actually being.
If anything you can always tell her what you’re doing. Admitting that you want this to go for the long haul isn’t a pansy move. Plus telling her what’s on your mind will give you some backup when it comes to fighting off your horniness. She’ll help you resist as long as the two of you can and be privy to why you’re not jumping her bones.