When you’re having an extramarital affair it’s easy to get caught up in all of the romance. The same could be said for the beginning of any relationship really. The sex, passion, and new experiences can cloud a man’s judgment. It’s often too late that you realize that this sexy minx is in fact an insane woman who’s trying to get you to impregnate her. Or even worse, a homebody who is essentially as bland as white rice. So how can you tell ahead of time if she’s worth the trouble?
What Do Your Friends Think?
Your friends know you better than anyone, probably even more than some of your family. Eventually they will meet your woman, whether she’s a fling or long-term girlfriend. After the very first meeting you need to ask them what they think of her. At this point they can be brutally honest because they don’t have any alliances to her relationship with you yet. Now the tricky part is to actually listen to them. If they don’t like her and say so you can’t come back with an “I don’t give a fuck what you think.” It’s going to be tough, but take their advice and really think of how much you actually like this chick. Is she worth more than your friend’s opinions? Because the trouble you’re going to find when it comes to mixing both of them up in your life is never ending. She’ll nag that they’re assholes and they’ll tell you she’s a bitch.
Are You Embarrassed by Her?
Taking a woman out on a date should be awesome, no matter what setting it’s in. Do you find that you’re embarrassed when you take her to a restaurant? She might complain loudly or eat sloppily. Maybe she’s even critical of the wait staff. If this is something you can tolerate then you’re fine. She might make up for her rudeness by being exceptionally beautiful or smart. The qualities have to balance themselves out otherwise she’s going to make the supposedly more enjoyable parts of your life miserable.
Does She Offer You Something No One Else Can?
Just like in the real world, everyone is looking for someone that can provide a service for them. Your lady really is no different. Sure, you’re not giving her money for an oil change, but you are giving her your time and affection for hers in return. Does she give you something that no other woman can? As the saying goes, there’s a lot of fish in the sea. If this fish doesn’t have golden scales or something you can always catch one that’s even better. What her golden scale is doesn’t matter. She can be an amazing cook, mother, hiker, painter, or even just gives you amazing sex. As long as you can pinpoint a skill that sets her apart from the rest. That’s what makes her worth the trouble. Otherwise, you’ve just got a pain in the ass for absolutely no reason at all.