Deciding whether or not to hook up with your friend’s old fling can be a stressful if you don’t know where you stand with your friend or how the fling ended. When you are wondering whether or not it’s all right to hook up with your pal’s old fling, you can take a few steps to help you decide if it’s really worth it.
How Good of a Friend is He?
You don’t want to step on any toes when it comes to fooling around with your pal’s fling. You will need to think long and hard about how good of a friend your buddy is. If he’s a close friend, he may not even care about you hooking up with her. However, there is also a chance that he will pretend like he doesn’t care, but will secretly be offended. You definitely do not want the latter happening as he may try to contact you wife to let her know that you’re cheating on her.
Whether he is a close friend or someone you’re just getting to know, your best bet would be to ask him if he’s okay with you hooking up with his fling. You may also want to keep in mind that his fling may only want to hook up with you to make him angry. You should avoid hooking up with her if that’s the case. Make sure you know her intentions. Ask your friend if he’s okay with it. If for any reason that you think he’s lying about being fine with you seeing his old fling, opt out of hooking up with her.
Should You Tell Him
If you end up hooking up with a woman and then later find out that she had a thing with your friend, you have the choice of deciding whether or not you should tell him about it. If you and your current fling are only planning to hook up once or twice, you may be able to avoid telling him. However, if the two of you have planned to see each other for longer than that, you may run into issues with keeping things a secret from him. One thing you’ll need to do is find out if your fling has any plans with hooking up with your buddy again. If she does, you may not want to get involved with her. If you think she’s lying, you should find a way to ask your friend about his old fling without being too obvious.
You can start off by talking about how you’re thinking of having a fling. This will probably get him talking about his old flings. Make sure to ask him questions about his old flings and whether or not he kept feelings for them after everything is over. Use his answers to determine whether or not you should act on hooking up with his ex-fling.
Dating your pal’s old fling can be tricky. Men may like to pretend that they aren’t bothered by it, but many times they are. Sometimes we have no desire to hook up with our exes, but we hate the idea of someone else we know having them.