The idea of open relationships is rising in popularity, and that means you could apply it to your marriage. Who knows, maybe you fell in love with the woman you’re having an affair with? Or maybe you just want the opportunity for fall in love with more than one person. Either way, having an open relationship will provide you with a lot more options than you had before, and even for the most resistant wife it’s not that hard to request one. You just have to make her come around to your way of seeing things.
Start Prepping Early
It’s best to test the waters long before you spring anything on your wife. Women can become upset easily about things being dropped suddenly on them, especially something as drastic as opening up your marriage. Start asking her little questions, like “So, I’ve heard that some people have open relationships where they’re still in love but are free to see other people. How do you feel about that?” Little things like that make it seem like you’re just interested in someone else’s lifestyle, and it’s a great way to get a feel for how she sees the concept. It’s also a good time to sway her opinion while she’s still relatively unbiased. Just tell her that you think it could be a good thing, and explain why. You might be able to pry her mind a little wider and help her accept the actual thing when it happens.
Have Her Meet the Other Woman
This probably seems like a huge no-no, but it’s actually a very good idea. If you’ve already met a woman that you’d like to be in a relationship with, then it’s important that you don’t hide her from your wife. The whole idea of an open relationship is for it to be, well, open. This means that you don’t keep secrets, especially when you meet somebody. Letting her know that there’s another woman in your life and allowing her to meet the woman without finding out from another source will boost her trust in you and will make her more inclined to like the other woman.
Be Understanding and Supportive
Obviously this isn’t going to be smooth sailing. Your wife will probably have a lot of questions, and she’s probably going to be more than a little upset. That doesn’t mean that she won’t change her mind in the end, but it does mean that you’re going to have to put up with a lot of bickering for a while. The important thing to remember is to keep your cool. Put yourself in her shoes – you wouldn’t be too happy if she brought home another man, would you? Take your time with her, and allow her to come around on her own. If she has questions, answer them happily instead of snapping with her about it. Keeping calm will help her feel more at ease with the situation, and if you’re willing to hear her out then it’ll seem like you genuinely care. She’ll appreciate how polite you’re being about the whole thing.